Stuck Places 

    

      I woke today feeling sad and heavy hearted.  I was also feeling stuck like this poor little guy above.  

     My mind reminded me of a conflict  I had the night before with my husband about his charger….a CHARGED UP conflict! The problem was simple but the communication was NOT!

     You know, one of those communication patterns, we all have, where what is meant is vasty different than what is said so the message is WAY, WAY different than intended.

     What he meant to say: “Im frustrated because my charger is missing but what he said was a whole lot more.

     What I meant to say: “I’m having a hard time following your story so please tell me what you need” but what I said was a whole lot more.

     With a redo we got there, but, boy  was there a lot in between about not feeling heard and validated and feeling mistreated and misunderstood. Yep, all from a charger.

     I know this may sound silly and it is, it truly is!  What isn’t silly; however, is how we communicate our needs.  Do we speak gently and consisely or do we speak harshly and defensively? Is there a sense of understanding or a tone of anger and condescension? Are we talking to resolve an issue or win a conflict? Do we leave the dialogue with a better understanding of ourselves and our partner or more confused than when we started?   Do we realize how to communicate effectively or are we doing the same old song and dance?  I believe this is what is meant by the admonition in Epbesians to “Speak the truth in love” in Ephesians 4.15.  Speaking our truth in loving ways can save us from a whole lot of stuck places!

     So what can we do about these stuck places? How do we make sure we are speaking the truth in love?   How do we get from a charged up place to a space of grace?  WE SPEAK THE TRUTH IN LOVE!  That’s what! 

     So, we take a deep breathe, pray and try again.  We call it a do-over in our home and that’s exactly we did, a.do-over, and guess what, we got unstuck and, as God would have it, we found the charger too!

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Diet Soda Controversy

  

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  So, we’re in the very first week of 52 weeks to a new you and here’s what’s happening so far:

     I have decided to forego diet soft drinks due to the controversy associated with them.  I say controversy because some health reports recommend diet soft drinks as opposed to regular ones to save calories and others demonize them saying they do many horrible things including:

Fill the body with artificial sweeteners and harmful chemicals

Cause bone and teeth loss over time

Bloat the belly.  Yes, you read right, bloat your belly since those chemicals clog it up and slow digestion

Create weight gain. Saw what, no way? Well, yes way. The artifical sweetener is sweeter than sugar promoting hunger instead of reducing it

     As you can see by this, not exhaustive list, of claimed problems with diet soft drinks, that the risk outweighs the benefits of a few missed calories so that’s why I chose to forego diet soda in week one.

     Will I ever have another soda? Probably when I’m out in a social setting occasionally but regularly, heck no.  Next time I’ll post what chef has decided to change in week one!

     Meanwhile, how’s your first week going so far? What have you decided to work on?  What change did you make this week towards your goals?  We’d love to hear from you in our comments section and cheer each other on.
    

52 WEEKS, NEW YOU! REALLY?

   

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  So, not many of you know my Chef husband and I both left corporate America over the past year.  (That’s us on the left with our children and granddaughter) We tired of the rat race even though it did pay each rat almost six figures to run.  I left my job first, June 7, 2015, to be exact, and my hubby left his seven months later on January 22, 2016.
     What were two income less fools to do?   So glad you asked! We had prayed about it for some time and were feeling drawn to expand my then small, private practice into a full fledged wellness center and that’s exactly what we have done.
     Who’d have thought a chef and a counselor would be working together, side by side, after all these years of marriage; yet,  that’s exactly what has happened. We’re just getting started. We both feel this is gonna be the ride of a lifetime.
     Hold on to your hats as we begin this journey together and see where God takes us. Oh, and remind us to hold onto our purse strings for a bit, we don’t have that rat race income anymore! Here’s to running our own race!