Stuck Places 

    

      I woke today feeling sad and heavy hearted.  I was also feeling stuck like this poor little guy above.  

     My mind reminded me of a conflict  I had the night before with my husband about his charger….a CHARGED UP conflict! The problem was simple but the communication was NOT!

     You know, one of those communication patterns, we all have, where what is meant is vasty different than what is said so the message is WAY, WAY different than intended.

     What he meant to say: “Im frustrated because my charger is missing but what he said was a whole lot more.

     What I meant to say: “I’m having a hard time following your story so please tell me what you need” but what I said was a whole lot more.

     With a redo we got there, but, boy  was there a lot in between about not feeling heard and validated and feeling mistreated and misunderstood. Yep, all from a charger.

     I know this may sound silly and it is, it truly is!  What isn’t silly; however, is how we communicate our needs.  Do we speak gently and consisely or do we speak harshly and defensively? Is there a sense of understanding or a tone of anger and condescension? Are we talking to resolve an issue or win a conflict? Do we leave the dialogue with a better understanding of ourselves and our partner or more confused than when we started?   Do we realize how to communicate effectively or are we doing the same old song and dance?  I believe this is what is meant by the admonition in Epbesians to “Speak the truth in love” in Ephesians 4.15.  Speaking our truth in loving ways can save us from a whole lot of stuck places!

     So what can we do about these stuck places? How do we make sure we are speaking the truth in love?   How do we get from a charged up place to a space of grace?  WE SPEAK THE TRUTH IN LOVE!  That’s what! 

     So, we take a deep breathe, pray and try again.  We call it a do-over in our home and that’s exactly we did, a.do-over, and guess what, we got unstuck and, as God would have it, we found the charger too!

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***If you’d like to try something new in your marriage and start speaking your truth in love, give us a call today at Turning Leaf Wellness Center and one of our counselors will be glad to assist you. Why not call today? ***

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Cross Fit 6 Week Challenge

Say what? Yes, I can hardly believe it myself, however, I’m on my 3rd week of the 6 week cross fit challenge and I absolutely love it.

I have to be honest, I had no idea what I was getting myself into when I joined the challenge. I just knew I was looking for something new to do for my health.

It all started with an innocent statement from my dear husband who was probably tired of hearing me struggle with my workouts and healthy eating. He simply said, “If your serious about working out, get a personal trainer.” You see, I was working out with dumb bells at home and had met a plateau.

I immediately dismissed his suggestion as I figured it would cost a lot and we recently both left corporate America to start our own business.

As GOD would have it, the very next day I saw an ad for crossfit for women, a 6 week challenge and the rest is history!

I had NO IDEA I would be weight lifting and even less of a clue that I would love it!

Plus, having coaches at every work out (forever, I might add) to insure safety and proper form really has me feeling safe.

Oh, and the Paleo diet. There are a lot of things to do to spice that up.

Some of which I will post soon but for now, here’s one that greatly helps!

Coconut and almond flour! The secret to carb cravings!!!!

12 Days to Go on the Wellness Challenge

   

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Only 12 more days until the 30 day wellness challenge ends and chef and I have had fantastic results.  We have eliminated ALL fast, fried and processed foods from our diet as well as white flour easily as we have been doing that for a while. However, despite our rising to the challenge, we haven’t risen fully, LOL, as we have consistently had a few items containing sugar or artificial sweeteners, i.e, diet coke and a couple of items with alcohol, i.e., mixed drinks or beer.
     So, it appears, chef and I have the healthy food thing down but not the healthy drink thing. That being said, we have begun our quest for healthy, yet tasty, drinks and it hasn’t been easy so far. We have created, and haven’t liked, a number of drinks to date.  So far, however, the two most enjoyable drinks have been our homemade gingerale and infused pear water.  For those of you who want to replace soda, chemically flavored waters (read the labels), and sugar laden or calorie laden drinks with healthier options, yet, are bored with plain water, here’s an alternative we recommend.

Pears
Ginger
Cinnamin
Vanilla Bean
Ice
Water

Place all ingredients in your pitcher of choice.
Fill with ice
Fill will fresh water
Stir and refrigerate for an hour
Enjoy!

It can’t be much simpler than this and the water will last for up to three days. Additionally, the fruit is edible!

PS. There is no specific amount of each item so play with the ingredients until it’s the way you enjoy! Bottoms up.
    

Almost half way- Day 13

WOW! Tomorrow marks the halfway point on our 30 day couples wellness challenge journey. Since today was the last day of week 2, I weighed in (as I weigh in once a week) and to my surprise, I lost 3 more pounds, for a total of 5 pounds in two weeks, simply by ridding my meals of any processed or fried foods as well as sugar, white flour, amd unhealthy fats. Incredible! Speaking of incredible, here’s a recipe Chef created for tuna salad WITHOUT Mayonaisse. Just because it’s done a certain way doesn’t mean it’s the only way!

2 cans chunk white tuna
1 diced plum tomato
4 scallions chopped
1/2 cup Kalamata olives chopped
1/2 cup feta cheese
Juice of 1 lemon
Salt and pepper

Mix up and put on the healthy item of your choice including lettuce, pita, salad, etc.

Let us know how you like it in our comments section or at http://www.turning-leaf-wellness.com

Day 10- Say Whattttt?

WOW! Today Chef and I are officially 1/3 of the way into the 30 Day Wellness Challenge and, praise God, we are enjoying most of it.  I’m going to shake things up today and simply post a recipe from one of yesterday’s meals. It was a Vegetable and Brown Rice Frittata and here goes:  This serves 4.

INGREDIENTS

1 cup fresh, mixed veggies (choose your fav’s)

1/2 cup cooked brown rice

1/4 cup cheese (choose your favorite  again)

3 jumbo eggs beaten

2 T salsa

1 sprig Cilantro

1/4 T Olive Oil

This one had asparagus, zucchini, squash, onion, and feta cheese.

PROCEDURE

Saute vegetables briefly in olive oil

Mix in half cup of rice in saute pan on lower heat

Add in beaten eggs and mix well

Cook for 3 minutes then  flip and cook for 3 more minutes

Cut into quarters

Garnish with Fresh salsa and cilantro

Enjoy!

 

 

 

Couples Wellness Challenge- Day 8

Yesterday marked the end of week one of our 30 Day Wellness Challenge so I decided to step on the scale and am 2 pounds lighter and chef is 5!  Can anyone say BONUS for being healthy?

With one week under our belt, chef and I have learned a lot together like the right combination of healthy foods together tastes so much better than we inagined, we actually  like Greek yogurt on many items better than sour cream or mayonnaise, pasta free Italian is possible, we need to create a healthy, carbonated beverage to replace soda, we need to develop healthy snacks (like Chef’s amazing  tortilla chips as there to die for), and preparation is key.  Now on to week 2!